3 Ways to Instantly Achieve a More Positive MindsetNone
In Courtney E. Ackerman’s new book, My Pocket Positivity: Anytime Exercises That Boost Optimism, Confidence, and Possibility, she shares 140 quick and effective exercises to help people feel more hopeful and achieve and maintain a more positive mindset. Below, we share three exercises that can give you a quick shot of confidence and an instant mood lift.
Quit Making Uneven Comparisons
You’ve probably heard that it’s unhealthy and unhelpful to compare yourself with others too much. It’s true—constant comparison is bound to leave you feeling frustrated and self-conscious.
However, it’s not necessarily the act of comparing that is so harmful. It might be that you’re making uneven comparisons.
This is a simple but profound truth that has the potential to trigger an “aha!” moment: when you compare yourself with others, you are often comparing their strengths to your weaknesses.
You rarely compare your strengths to their weaknesses, or your strengths to their strengths; instead, you jump straight to the comparison with the higher disparity and the unfavorable skew.
It is these uneven comparisons that are damaging to your self-confidence and self-esteem, and pretty useless to boot.
After all, what do you gain by comparing yourself with others on things you struggle with, but they excel at? What valuable insight does this give you, beyond reminding you that you have weaknesses and others have strengths? You already know that!
A comparison that could actually produce useful insight would consider your strengths and the strengths of others, or your weaknesses and the weaknesses of others.
Keep this tendency to make uneven comparisons in mind the next time you think about how you measure up to others, and make sure that any comparisons you do make are on more of an even playing field.
Celebrate the Success of Others
Aside from improving your relationships with others, being positive and congratulatory when someone else succeeds benefits you as well. When you spend time cultivating an orientation to success and an attitude of appreciating success, no matter who it is that’s enjoying that success, you will find that success comes more easily to you too.
The next time you are feeling down about or wallowing in envy of another’s success, try this technique to bring yourself out of your funk and encourag