4 Areas to Declutter So You Can Live with AbundanceBy Homaira Kabir
Author Annie Dillard wrote, "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives". Yet few of us think much about the time we spend in our moment-to-moment interactions—with ourselves, with others, and with life itself.
We may while away an hour, or many. We may engage in needless resentment and rumination. We may avoid the things we care about and wait yet another day to start living our true lives—a drifting journey that never gets to its goal.
We may rush around ticking items off our to-do lists, catering to other people's demands and expectations, or saying yes to every bright and creative idea that comes our way. As Warren Buffet puts it, "Busy is the new stupid."
As a women's well-being and leadership coach, I've seen so many people overwhelmed by thoughts and pursuits that don't always make them feel alive. Instead of grounding themselves in their priorities and being strategic about how they spend their days, they give their time away as though it were the most disposable item they have. Rarely do they think that time is perhaps the only thing they can never, ever get back.
If you'd like to take back your days—and thus your life—here are four areas that may need a refresh:
We live in an age of opportunity where there are a hundred good ideas everywhere we look. While this has been great for progress in general, it can also stall us when we let our ideas get ahead of us. We can set too many goals, commit to too many ideas, get involved in too many projects. This leads to either passive engagement or overwhelm (when you try to give more of yourself), especially if you're also a perfectionist. Identify the two to four opportunities that truly light you up and are aligned with your values and strengths, and let go of the rest. Good is the enemy of great—wouldn't you rather be great?
One of the most important predictors of success and fulfillment is the company we keep. And yet, few of us are strategic about the people we let into our lives, or careful about nurturing the relationships that are important to us. We either give too much and feel unappreciated, resentful, and angry; or, we try and become everything to everyone and feel unhappy about not spending enough time with the people we truly care about. Spend some time thinking of the relationships you will nurture, the boundaries you will set where needed and the habits of engagement you will develop (such as listening, appreciating, helping) where possible. Rem