5 Factors That Affect a Relationship’s LongevityNone By Malini Bhatia
You love each other; you’re married or in a stable relationship and you hope to live happily ever after, right? Well, guess what? Love is not the only ingredient that turns a ho-hum marriage into a fulfilling one. “Happily ever after” is a beautiful phrase that we hear in fairy tales, but in real life, hard work is required to attain that goal. Numerous factors affect a couple’s relationship, but with the right support, both you and your significant other can find marital success in the long run. Here are 5 factors that can have a major impact on your relationships longevity:
#1: Too Many Secrets Can Spell Trouble
It's okay to keep a couple of things to yourself, but if you have too many secrets, your relationship will suffer. Sometimes, even the most innocent white lie can damage the bond you’ve struggled so hard to make with the person sitting right next to you. A relationship built on lies reduces confidence levels to a minimum, thus ruining the trust you once shared.
If you feel stuck in your marriage or are unable to express yourself, or you secretly feel unhappy or sexually disconnected and can't seem to change it on your own, consider going to couple’s therapy. Keeping secrets from your spouse and not being able to communicate with them has a lot to do with underlying issues you may not be aware of. Remember, even the smallest of secrets closes off a part of a spouse's heart. Simply knowing that you're being dishonest creates distance.
#2: Jealousy Is a Tough Disease
Jealousy is like a phobia; once you've got it, it's extremely difficult to make it go away. The fear of betrayal can lead to other issues such as distrust and insecurity. This can be a real threat and can be solved by admitting what the problem is.
Openly communicating your feelings, acknowledging that you need to overcome your own issues, and trusting your spouse (and relationship) are some solutions. Otherwise, your marriage is predisposed to failure. Don’