5 Rules to Help You Determine Whether You're Getting Good AdviceBy Homaira Kabir
We seek advice for different reasons. Some of us look for it more than others. Perhaps we're wired to want safety over adventure. Or perhaps we've had experiences that make us fearful of losing control or facing failure or rejection.
Some of us seek advice when the complexity of the situation baffles our mental capacities, or when the stakes are high and a faux pas can be very costly. And while advice can certainly guide us toward a favorable outcome, our ability to discern good advice from bad is the key to making good decisions in our lives.
This can be difficult in a world where there's no shortage of advice. Every article we read (including this one) has something to say about what we need to do differently to be more successful, peaceful, charismatic—you name it. Add on to that the personal advice we're given by well-meaning people around us who take it upon themselves to guide us in everything from what to wear to what to say and how to say it.
I remember a well-meaning participant I met at a conference who told me exactly how to build my online business. This is before she knew what I did, and most of her advice that I blindly followed backfired—because it wasn't suited to a coaching business. (Nor was it my style.)
Over time, I learned to grow an inner guide who could help me be receptive to advice, but also make decisions based on what worked best, given my unique personality and situation. If you too have had moments where you now wish you'd ditched a piece of