5 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship with…YourselfNone By Natalie Edwards
In life, many of us simply don’t allow ourselves to just be with and accept the person we truly are. It took me a long time to accept myself and find beauty in my own reflection, and it’s still something that takes daily work. Because, like many women, I had spent my entire life editing myself for other people rather than being confident enough to believe that the true me, was absolutely enough.
What does self-acceptance really mean?
Well, it means not trying to change the way we live our lives for other people.
It means allowing ourselves to be truly seen for who we are.
It means letting go of feeling that we have to be someone that we’re not, or trying to speak or act in a way that doesn’t feel aligned for us.
Many of us have been conditioned to believe that we have to live by someone else’s rules or fit into a specific box so that we can find the right job or the right partner or whatever it is that we’re searching for. In reality of course, we are all unique and we all need to accept and fully embrace our individuality.
I spent many years doing things that I didn’t believe in or that weren’t aligned with my core values, but it took me a long time to realize that underpinning this was the fact that I didn’t really love myself very much and had stopped being kind to myself, emotionally and physically.
A lack of self-acceptance and self-love turns up the volume on our negative thoughts. We start to have internal conversations with ourselves about how we can change to fit in or become stronger or more beautiful. The problem with this is, it moves us further away from what we really want, what we believe in, and what we value in life. And that’s when we become stuck, unhappy, and doing things we don’t want to do.
I invite you to play with the idea of exploring your great qualities and beginning to use self-acceptance as a way to tap into your happiness. Now I don’t mean accepting the things you don’t like about yourself and just being OK with them. We got skilled at doing this so it also means we might not be good at accepting compliments or staying open to feeling abundant and receiving. How can you think in a more positive way about the whole you? I’m sure you could make a very long list of the things you don’t like about yourself, but what about the things you do like?
If you’re struggling with your "pro" list, have you asked anyone close to you recently, "What's so great about me?" It’s a good question to ask, because sometimes we