5 Tiny Words and Phrases that Can Transform Your LifeNone By Elana Goldberg
Self-help guru Dale Carnegie was once asked what was the most important lesson he ever learned in life. His answer: “By far, the most vital lesson I have ever learned is the importance of what we think.” Science wholeheartedly agrees. Research has found that our thoughts—particularly on how we perceive external events—are one of the strongest indicators of happiness. So it follows that kind, encouraging “self-talk” leads to a positive outlook on life in general.
So how do we influence our thoughts? By choosing the right words. According to a host of research in the field of social psychology, making simple changes to everyday words can have a powerful effect on our feelings and behaviors. These five words and phrases can help bring mindful attention to how the words you use every day can influence your life in a positive way.
Using the word “some” instead of “all” or “none” has the power to put situations into perspective and cut down on generalizations.
FOR EXAMPLE: “Some things aren’t going my way at the moment” sounds a lot more manageable than “nothing is working out for me this week.”
Another handy substitution trick: using “and” instead of “but” can open up a dialogue and cut out unnecessary conflict.
FOR EXAMPLE: “I agree with a lot of what you are saying AND I wonder if we could examine this particular point” gives you a window for feedback and clarification, while making the person you’re speaking to feel valued and heard.
Skillful use of the word &ld