6 Steps That Can Prevent an Angry Outburst You’ll RegretNone By Homaira Kabir
Sometimes the smallest remarks or inconveniences cause us to blow our top.
Before we know it, we go from being the adult in charge to the child having an emotional meltdown. Some of us justify our reactions and maintain a false sense of righteousness. Philosopher David Hume was right when he said that “reason is slave to passion.” We may hear an inner voice that begs us to stop even as we yell, but we just can't in that moment. Either way, in the tussle between our emotions and our conscious mind, it seems that our emotions are frequently the winner.
The good news is: We can change that! We can go from being the victim of the less evolved parts of our own mind to becoming the adult in charge; that way, we can calm the howling child within.
Step #1: Name Your Emotion
This simple act promotes greater bilateral integration in the left and right hemispheres of the brain, and makes it feel like your emotions are both heard and acknowledged. So if you’re fuming over a comment someone made, get curious and ask yourself, “What emotion am I feeling right now?" Is it anger, disgust, frustration, or perhaps sadness?” This is the first step in creating distance from your emotions rather than being engulfed by them.
Step #2: Listen to Your Thoughts
Along with heightened emotions, there’s invariably a commentary running through your mind. Can you hear what it’s telling you? Is it venting about the unfairness of the situation, about how you’ve been treated wrongly? Is it reminding you of similar incidences in the past and how it’s about time you took revenge? Or perhaps it’s beating up on you for being a doormat and never standing up for yourself. Listen closely!