7 Reasons to Say “No” and Do it with ConfidenceBy Dr. Danielle Dowling
With endless work deadlines, social engagements, and family responsibilities, it can feel like we're in a constant battle with time.
Learning to say “NO” more often just might be the solution. Appreciating your need for some "me" time is one of the most fulfilling gifts you can give yourself and others. When we can simply pause, we restore, realign, and recalibrate.
Sometimes, we have to sacrifice pleasing others in order to find time to recharge. Here are 7 reasons to embrace the power of saying no and some tips for how to say it with kindness and confidence.
1. There's no "right" way to say no.
I understand that saying no is hard. We live in a culture that respects busyness, and “doing it all”. And you worry that if you say no, you’ll appear rude, create conflict, or burn a bridge.
But these perceptions are misconceptions. To get you started, here are a few scripts for how to begin saying “NO” with respect and authenticity:
“Now’s not a good time as I’m in the middle of something. How about we reconnect at X time?”
"Let me think about it first, and I’ll get back to you.”
“I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try X?”
“I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.”
2. Your intuition is the greatest radar system you have.
Your gut feelings can help you figure out what you want long before you can actually express it. Tapping into your intuition will help you confidently articulate why you are choosing to say no, both to yourself and to the other person. Remember that some situations just aren't meant to be.