How Open-Minded Are You, Really?By Homaira Kabir
How many times have you listened to someone and thought their idea was…well, that it needed work? (Yes, let’s put it that way.) Or that it simply wasn’t worth entertaining, which is why you embarked on a tirade about why your idea was the only one that made sense?
It’s surprising how many of us have an “illusionary superiority”—a belief that our abilities and qualities are generally better than those of others. This cognitive bias often leads us to use reason to downplay other people's ideas and arguments.
Not many of us would admit to this, though! Most people would be offended at the mere suggestion that they might need to be more open-minded. They'd present you with a list of instances where they let go of a disagreement, or allowed others to speak even though not much of it was worth listening to. What they don't know is that by digging their heels in, their rant is actually proving their close-mindedness.
Before you decide that you certainly aren't one of them, I invite you to ask yourself a few questions taken from the book Principles by Ray Dalio, one of the world’s most successful entrepreneurs. These questions may reveal a lot more about you than you care to admit!
Questions or Statements?
When you engage with someone, do you tend to ask open-ended questions, hoping to discover something that you may not have previously known about the topic? Or do you sit back, waiting to express your own opinions and/or disprove everything the