Is Fear Preventing You from Living Your Purpose?None By Homaira Kabir
Have you ever tapped into a dream so big that it takes your breath away? Or a desire so true that it lights up your life? Like starting a new business where you can be creative to your heart’s content, writing that book that’s been developing in your mind since forever, or opening up and being more vulnerable in your relationship?
And what do you do with such dreams? Honor them and work toward them, or set about actively shrinking them down to the size of your comfort zone?
If it’s the latter, that’s fear at play, in the form of a built-in defense in the face of desires. It’s the work of a mind that operates on learned behaviors from the past, based on experiences that you or those around you have had.
And so your desires stay just that, and eventually turn into regrets of chances not taken and dreams left untouched.
Instead of shrinking your dreams down to your safety levels, you need to expand your mind so it begins to step away from its fear-based response and embrace the possibilities that surround you. That way, the next time your dreams come a-knocking, you’ll welcome them in instead of shutting them out.
Identify Your Defense
Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson says that the way to be true to our desires is to work backward from our defenses. How do you react when a purpose speaks to your heart and calls your name? Do you feel a sudden rush of fatigue, an urge to run away, or perhaps a surge of mental justifications—like how you’re not good enough, competent enough, or presentable enough? Or perhaps that it’s not the right time, right work, or right fit? Such thoughts are self-focused, and the best way to counter them is to look beyond yourself to the difference you will make to others—if you were to follow your heartfelt desires.