The One Thing You Likely Don’t Know About YourselfNone By Homaira Kabir
It's been a recurring theme in my life: Every time I'm offered an opportunity that stretches me beyond my comfort zone, an incessant mental chatter pulls the excitement out from under my feet:
"You'll make a fool of yourself!" "They'll realize you don’t know much at all!"
A running reel of images plays on my mental Jumbotron. It seems that the sole purpose of my power of imagination is to terrorize myself.
Perhaps you've heard that voice too. The one reminding you that you're somehow not enough. Not smart enough, not intelligent enough, not witty enough, and certainly not worthy enough to do anything of much importance. It cautions you that as long as you continue playing small, you'll come to no harm.
Why do so many of us struggle with this voice? Why has the magic of language also burdened us with a personal narrator that speaks to us mostly in negative terms? Is it blind to our potential, or is it wise in its assessment that despite sitting at the top of the food chain, we really don't amount to much at all?
Perhaps it has something to do with the messages we receive from very early on in our lives that do little to strengthen our "courage" muscle. Or maybe it has to do with the fact that we're exposed to far fewer stories of everyday heroism than we are to funny cat videos. Perhaps it even has something to do with the outcome-obsessed society we live in, which leaves little room to connect