The Letter You Should Write Today to Feel Better InstantlyBy Homaira Kabir
It’s not often we follow through on advice. However good it is. Don’t believe me? What was the last book your read, last course you took, or last seminar you attended? Did you have some amazing aha moments? And what did you do about them?
When I started earning my graduate degree in positive psychology, one of the things I learned early on was the power of gratitude letters. Research shows that writing a detailed gratitude letter to someone you’ve never thanked properly may benefit your well‑being and relationships. If you also share your letter with the person, the benefits are even greater.
The idea really spoke to me, but that was more than ten years ago, and I never did write that letter. Until recently. Ever since the lockdown, my four children and I have been living in a small downtown apartment. It was ample in size when it was just me and my 15-year-old, but it’s not with the other three home from college, and the lack of physical space is really testing our love for each other.
My initial excitement of “This is so nice, I love having you all at the dinner table,” has turned into endless pleas of “Be grateful” and “Let go.” And that’s when I’m not completely depleted of emotional strength. Most times, we’re all scraping the bottom of an empty vessel. Without physical boundaries, I can see how our emotional boundaries have become sky high. We have far less tolerance, and far too much energy to blow little things completely out of proportion. Recently, this had started making me very unhappy.
When I would