5 Steps to Truly Make Change Happen in Your LifeNone By Homaira Kabir
For many of us, changing a bad habit can be one of the most frustrating experiences. This is made worse by the countless promises we see and hear every day of quick and easy solutions for everything from weight loss to finding your dream job, date, or soulmate. It's no surprise that many of us begin to feel completely inadequate and eventually join the more than 90 percent of people who give up on their goals.
What if we were told that changing behaviors is hard? That it takes time and work? It certainly won't fare well in ads. 3 Challenging Solutions doesn’t stand a chance next to 3 Simple Keys. And 9 Months to Confidence has none of the appeal of Instant Confidence packaged in a single workshop. Which is why we enroll in these programs expecting to leave a different person, only to realize that whatever momentary change we felt was just that—momentary.
The reality is that change is not easy. Our habitual behaviors are neural patterns encoded in our brains, either because they served a survival purpose in the past, or because they've become ingrained in us thanks to mindless repetition. As such, they function in a cue-and-response fashion, getting activated every time we find ourselves in a similar situation. And for habits that are laden with emotions, such as aggression and avoidance, the similarity can sometimes take quite a stretch of the imagination.
This doesn’t mean that change is not possible. Far from it. We now know that the brain is plastic until the day we die. That in itself is something to marvel at. Old neu