4 Ways to Turn Your Insecurities into InspirationNone By Matt Alesevich
Insecurity. The very mention of the word makes our bodies constrict in self-defense.
When asked about our insecurities or inner secrets by a new friend or romantic partner, we’re likely to play the part of the loyal gangster in a police interrogation. We pause in feigned thought, reveal trivial, calculated tidbits, and exhale a confidence unique to the sole keeper of a deep secret.
But in the long run, can this type of relief be considered relief at all? Paradoxically, is a refusal to be seen as vulnerable giving us the opposite of strength and control in our lives?
What if we adopted an if-you-can’t-beat-’em-join-em approach to our insecurities? It turns out, taking this small yet psychologically revolutionary turn can become a welcome shortcut on the road to emotional health. So if you’re finally willing to make friends with your foes, these four tips can help you discover the security in insecurity.
Share Your Struggles—Even If You Have to Do It Anonymously
According to Brené Brown, University of Houston social work professor and deliverer of one of the most-watched TED Talks (topic: shame), the most powerful words that we can hear during struggle are “me too.”
When we keep our insecurities to ourselves, we don’t give anyone a chance to relate to us and, by default, experience a self-fulfilling prophecy-flavored, assumption-based sense of isolation. When we add our voice to the chorus of me toos, however, we do more than give ourselves a chance to learn from and connect with those who share our struggles. Our mere presence in any support forum, whether anonymously online or in person, helps others realize that hundreds, thousands, or even hundreds of thousands of others share common struggles previously perceived to be unique and taboo.
Mentor Someone Younger Than You
The earlier we come to our me too moment, the more time we have to accept our insecurities and/or begin the work to improve our conditions. Like physical ailments, the sooner insecurities are acknowledged and dealt with, the less stress they will put on the mind and body in the future.
While we’re much more likely to encounter adults in voluntary support groups, we shouldn’t fail to acknowledge the life stage in which a vast majority of our deepest insecurities were born—childhood. While it takes proactiveness to work with children and teens that share our vulnerabilities and insecurities, the p