4 Ways to Uncover Your Most Charismatic SelfNone By Homaira Kabir
It's happened to all of us: We meet someone and we're instantly drawn to them. And I'm not talking about romantic love at first sight; I'm talking about that mysterious attraction that people often call charisma. Harvard psychologist Robert Kegan has found that charisma seems to exist not so much in the other person, but in a shared force bigger than either of us.
It may be because we're drawn to people whose lives make perfect sense to us. We're drawn to those in a heroic struggle. We're drawn to those who are intensely alive with a purpose. We're drawn to those whose challenges hold meaning for us and whose efforts we can relate to.
We're drawn to them because they're the heroes we'd like to be. They exude a passion for life, an enduring spirit, a raging ambition, and an ability to attract not only others, but life itself. For what they truly possess is an awareness and an acceptance of life as it is, that opens them up to embracing it with curiosity, joy, and the determination to make the most of it.
If you're looking to develop your own charisma, look no further than your own life. Then follow these 4 steps to become the magnet you'd like to be!
Step 1: Accept Your Whole Self
Self-acceptance does not come naturally to many of us. It could have its roots in our early experiences, or in the demands of a society that has little tolerance for flaws and weaknesses. Yet our darkness shines light on our brightness. Our