"Vulnerability Is Not Weakness" and 4 Other Lessons from Brené BrownNone By Shelby Skrhak
The viral popularity of Brené Brown’s 2010 TEDx talk about vulnerability was a complete and utter accident, the best-selling author told a capacity crowd at this month’s South by Southwest in Austin. “I didn’t even know it was going to be recorded.”
More than 24 million views later, Brown’s message about the power of vulnerability has become one of the most popular TED talks of all time. Brown’s keynote this month at the 30th annual tech, music and film festival had the Internet buzzing with its same powerful message.
Here are five inspiring lessons from Brené Brown’s keynote about daring to be vulnerable:
“Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the most accurate measurement of courage.”
“Choose courage over comfort,” Brown said. Vulnerability is the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.
"The bravest among us will always know heartbreak.”
If you're gonna be brave, you're gonna get hurt, Brown shared. “If you’re brave with your life and with your work, you are going to get your butt kicked. That's the physics of vulnerability.”
“Watch whose feedback you take.”
A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor, Brown told the crowd. “If you’re not in the arena, I’m not interested in your feedback.”
“We’re the authors of our lives. When we own our story, we get to write the ending.”
When we don’t have all the facts, we fill in the blanks with our own beliefs and fears, Brown explained. Don’t let that version of the story own you.
“The story you tell yourself is often a stormy first draft.”
Get those fears and negative thoughts out of your mind by writing them down, Brown said. Write it all down, and then revise to a better story.
Writing down all the doubts and fears you have about yourself is surprising advice, but Brown’s method is based on research. Our brains are hardwired to recognize a narrative; it wants a story, without regard to accuracy.
When self-doubt and negative thoughts take over your mind’s narrative, your brain will believe it, Brown says. So don’t let your story run away from you, she says. Be the author of your story.
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Shelby Skrhak is the director of digital content and social media for SUCCESS.com, the online destination for SUCCESS magazine.