Doctor and caregiver Lucy Kalanithi recently lost her husband, Paul, to lung cancer. Paul, a neurosurgeon, wrote the 2016 bestseller, When Breath Becomes Air while facing his fatal illness. In this exquisite TED Talk, Lucy discusses how Paul’s illness taught them how to approach suffering together, and to figure out what made life worth living. They discovered that living fully means accepting suffering. And that dying fully means making thoughtful and brave choices about what medical care will match your wishes and values. Lucy encourages us to shepherd each other through life; to help each other and find meaning in it all.